Socially commit to your Growth plans.

It is tough to find motivation to do hard things on our own. We don’t stick to our commitments, and most of us are not accountable to our own goals.

In such cases, its best to find a growth partner, it can be a friend, a colleague, a family member, a social group, a community, a class (meditation/yoga/dance class), or a mentor/coach.

Some of us are internally accountable, but most of us rely heavily on being dependent on others (externally accountable), which is only natural, given we are social creatures, which is why we must seek connections that can help us grow either personally or professionally.

Also, growing together and helping each other, increases our social connection with the group and our friends, which has its own benefits on the mental health.

Learning and growing together can be a fun activity and a healthy competition. We can provide each other the much needed feed-backs and constructive criticism.

We fill our knowledge gaps, providing what we learn to each other or the group, which accelerates learning.

How to find such people?

The internet and the society is filled with like minded people, its quite possible to find groups and communities online, on FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, and so on.

Toastmasters is a worldwide community where people learn communication and leadership via public speaking and making connections. A community such as this can also be of huge help to our personal growth.

Talk to your friends and make mutual deals with the ones who have goals similar to that of yours. Also, seek the friendships of people who are uplifting and encouraging. (We are the sum average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with.)

Many blogs and sites constantly share ideas on personal development, seeing these different POV regularly and engaging in the community can give us lots of insights into different things we can adopt for ourselves.

Personal Experience:

I was into personal growth since two years, the practices were okay, but on doing things on my own I would miss out on some better techniques and also there was a lesser accountability and push.

From a past few months, me and my friend from college, have formed a pact, where we establish some 3-4 challenges for ourselves every week (Mon-Fri), and share any new ideas and techniques that we come across.

The challenges can be like:

  • Meditate for 20 mins daily
  • Workout for 30 mins daily
  • Read a chapter or two of a book daily
  • Wake up early (earlier than usual)
  • Go without Social media for a week
  • Go without Video Games for a week
  • Eating healthy

I encourage you all to form such groups with your like minded friends and/or seek coaches or classes to find the external accountability and an extra push.


Use the power of social connections and friendships to grow better.

Ujjawal Sureka
A Student of life.

PS: If this post resonated with you, let me know in the comments, also share if you think it will be useful to others. Thank you, and have a great day.

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17 thoughts on “Socially commit to your Growth plans.

  1. Well said Sureka. Today there are many apps, friends, buddies to help one realise their growth/ plans.
    Also breaking them down into smaller doable things reinforces self confidence to pursue higher objectives. πŸ‘πŸ»
    Btw, loved your tagline at the end. We grow a lot if we believe we are students for life β™₯οΈπŸ‘Œ

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    1. Thanks a lot Radhika!
      You are right, its more possible to be connected now more than ever. And we should use that to our advantage.
      Yes, breaking them into smaller tasks is indeed an helpful practice.
      Thanks a lot for your thoughts and encouraging words! πŸ™Œ
      Hope you stay safe and healthy 😊


  2. Nice. I really appreciate this idea of a “growth partner”; I have been noticing that athletes, actors, or artists say it can be important to surround yourself with positive people in your life if you want to really focus on achieving your dreams (or like-minded people), and of course this can float over to any profession or just as in life-goals. This is another really interesting idea that I took from your post: “(We are the sum average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with.)” All relationships involve some give and take which influences our emotional existence, which in turn relates to the rest. And what I really took back is the power of “social connections”. No matter what we need other people to be our bests selves. Always appreciate what you share. Keep it up!

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    1. Thanks for your thoughts Benjamin.
      That was exactly my perspective on writing this post. Although I am introvert, I can really appreciate the power and the learning that comes from having strong social connections. I am still working on it though.
      I am glad that you could relate to that take away. As you said, its always a give and take, I too learn a lot about poetry from your poems.
      Thanks for the encouragement! πŸ™Œ
      I Hope you stay safe and healthy. 😊

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      1. I see what you mean on being an introvert. I think I’m the say way. But definitely noticed myself being able to be an extrovert the more I put myself out there socially. Thanks again for all these great thoughts. Stay safe also!

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    1. Thank you 😊
      True, toastmasters is an amazing platform indeed, it offers both networking and personal development.
      Have a good day and stay safe πŸ™Œ


  3. Love this. My friend and I have an ‘accountability’ chat every Friday at 5pm. This really helps me be intentional with how I spend my time during the week!

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    1. That is great, I too find that having an accountability partner helps a lot. Its amazing it working out good for you. Its fun growing with friends! πŸ™Œ


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