It is tough to find motivation to do hard things on our own. We don’t stick to our commitments, and most of us are not accountable to our own goals.
In such cases, its best to find a growth partner, it can be a friend, a colleague, a family member, a social group, a community, a class (meditation/yoga/dance class), or a mentor/coach.
Some of us are internally accountable, but most of us rely heavily on being dependent on others (externally accountable), which is only natural, given we are social creatures, which is why we must seek connections that can help us grow either personally or professionally.
Also, growing together and helping each other, increases our social connection with the group and our friends, which has its own benefits on the mental health.
Learning and growing together can be a fun activity and a healthy competition. We can provide each other the much needed feed-backs and constructive criticism.
We fill our knowledge gaps, providing what we learn to each other or the group, which accelerates learning.
How to find such people?
The internet and the society is filled with like minded people, its quite possible to find groups and communities online, on FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, and so on.
Toastmasters is a worldwide community where people learn communication and leadership via public speaking and making connections. A community such as this can also be of huge help to our personal growth.
Talk to your friends and make mutual deals with the ones who have goals similar to that of yours. Also, seek the friendships of people who are uplifting and encouraging. (We are the sum average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with.)
Many blogs and sites constantly share ideas on personal development, seeing these different POV regularly and engaging in the community can give us lots of insights into different things we can adopt for ourselves.
I was into personal growth since two years, the practices were okay, but on doing things on my own I would miss out on some better techniques and also there was a lesser accountability and push.
From a past few months, me and my friend from college, have formed a pact, where we establish some 3-4 challenges for ourselves every week (Mon-Fri), and share any new ideas and techniques that we come across.
The challenges can be like:
- Meditate for 20 mins daily
- Workout for 30 mins daily
- Read a chapter or two of a book daily
- Wake up early (earlier than usual)
- Go without Social media for a week
- Go without Video Games for a week
- Eating healthy
I encourage you all to form such groups with your like minded friends and/or seek coaches or classes to find the external accountability and an extra push.
Use the power of social connections and friendships to grow better.
A Student of life.
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